How do you handle when you are clearly in the room, and no one notices? What about when people speak to you just to be polite and hurry to hand with the “more important” individuals in the room? How about when you bust your butt to be there for someone, get them out of their mess, and have them run off a list of individuals who were there for them leaving you off? There may have been a time when you stepped up to do the duties of a position that was not yours and when it came to promotion or hiring, you were not even considered.
We are going to run into these types of situations over and over in our lives. Times where no matter how hard you work and how genuine your heart is, you will be overlooked. How do you handle it? Do you look at yourself as not enough or unworthy? Do you put on the heavy hat of comparing yourself to the chosen ones? Do you want to crawl into bed and isolate yourself since no one notices you anyway? At one time in my life, I would say absolutely YES!
Truth be told, I have spent too much time in my life where I allowed the opinions of others have more power over me my own opinion of myself. Now when I see myself in these situations, I do as Jesus did, brushed the dust off his sandals and stepped off. Don’t even waste your time. Walk away and move on.
When I look at my circle, I see there are many standing there patting me on the shoulder saying, you did a great job however, I am being overlooked for positions and opportunities to level up. Could I tear myself apart and say, I need more education, I need to speak better, I need to act in a certain way, dress a certain way, lose, or gain weight to appear a certain way, yes, I could. However, I refuse to do so. Not for them anyway. If I make any changes, it will be for myself.
There comes a point where you must step away and stand up for yourself. You must believe in yourself when no one else does. Learn to use those feelings of loneliness to motivate you. Get mad at those who don’t see you by pushing and working harder, determined to reach your goals.
Unfortunately, this world loves to put down and pick apart others bringing on a sense of self-empowerment. So do not be tricked by people’s fake sense of loyalty. There will be many that come into your life that asks how you are doing only to be polite and not because they want to put into action a solution to your response. Don’t even focus on others. Focus on God – it is He who blessed you with your talents and ability in the first place. They laughed at Noah for building the ark. He was a foolish old man until the doors of the ark closed leaving all those out after they were warned. How many famous people could tell you stories of how no one believed in them, how they were a nobody until one day their hard work paid off? After they received their “big break” is when people started to notice them.
When people don’t see you, brush your shoulder off and keep it moving. It’s not you, it’s them. No matter what you do they will not be able to see you. God has placed a light so bright in you that it blinds those who don’t share the same type of light.
“So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” John 13:34-35 NLT